Day 32: Feeling Guilty
There's a lady, let's call her M, that I know who recently lost someone very close to her. Now while we are not that close, just acquaintances, I still feel for M very much. Losing someone you love has to be the most painful thing in the world. A few weeks later, I was talking to M and she mentioned that she feels guilty. She asked me if it was normal to feel guilty. "What do you feel guilty about?", I asked. M, with tears building up in her eyes said that she thought she could've done more.
That's the thing with death. When it happens, always expectedly, we find ourselves in this position of guilt. Oh, I should've talked to this person more or been kinder. Oh, my last words to this person were so and so. We blame ourselves for not doing more.
The truth is throughout our lives we've interacted, loved and been loved by so many people that we just can't talk to everyone every day. It's just not possible. The only thing you can do is be kind and leave lasting impressions on people with the hopes that you will see them again.
We're too hard on ourselves. It's a two-way street and we can't just blame ourselves.
Be kind to others. Be kind to yourself.